New Day, Clean slate.

Have you ever cried the type of cry that gives you a headache? That you just have to go to sleep once you’re done crying because you are exhausted in your bones? It’s funny because anytime I have cried like that I wake up feeling so much better about whatever I was crying about originally. It kind of feels like letting go. Like a heavy weight has been lifted from you. You are literally all cried out, no tears left to cry type beat (until something else hits you of course).

Letting go of something you care about is honestly never easy. Whether it’s a bad habit, a toxic relationship or your favourite pair of jeans that ripped along the inner thigh (hun it’s time, don’t convince yourself no one can see the rip, we’ve all been there and yes we can all see the rip. Let them go). Letting go is tough, but one thing I have learned lately is that holding onto pain will never fix anything. Unfortunately looking back at the past and playing it over and over and over again will not change anything.

I know it’s easy for me to sit on my laptop and tell you to let go and give yourself a clean state. It sounds easy, except of course it isn’t. Unbinding yourself from something is difficult, feelings and habits (sometimes even people) follow you, especially when you are trying to leave them behind, especially when a big part of you doesn’t want to release them or them to release you. It’s human nature, we are sentimental beings, we hold onto so many things; we hold unto to our hopes, our dreams, our memories and relationships. I’m sure I could go on and on about stuff we hold onto but I know you get the message.

The thing is, once we begin to hold onto things, we enter our comfort zones and one thing about comfort zones is that they can actually be pretty uncomfortable places but we stay in them because we know them and we feel safe in them. Even when they are not so safe. I know some people have a lot of trouble letting go of their pain or their past because after a while they begin to think that it’s an instrumental part of their identity. Sometimes people don’t know who they are without their pain and it makes it impossible for them to let go of it. We enter these comfort zones and begin to live in stagnation. We are human, we are ever changing. Change and growth is at the core of who we are. If we want to progress in life we have to release anything binding us from moving forward.

Letting go can happen in an instant, (delete everything and cut off all access immediately) or slowly (remember when you were learning to ride a bike and your “instructor” ran alongside your bike, swearing up and down they would never let go of the saddle, and then launched you into a lifetime of uncertainty and distrust with one momentous push?). Thing is, only you can choose the right way and time to let go of things.

Know this though, you can’t let go of emotions that you have refused to feel. You can't just wipe the slate clean, if you don’t process those emotions before releasing them you’ll soon find out you never let them go, you just buried them and gave them room to grow. I know that letting go reminds us that we can’t control everything but doing nothing will just give you this false sense of strength. You can’t move forward if you refuse to let go of the things that are hurting you or preventing you from growing to your full potential.

I wrote this piece before New Years, but I decided not to post this then because I didn’t want it to be part of the New Year, New Me hype. We all know we flop three weeks in. So I’ve decided to start now. No more I’m starting tomorrow or the days after. I am beginning right now and so should you. You’ve been waiting for a sign right? Well this is it. You need to remember that you are strong enough to let go, you’ve come this far haven’t you? As long as you do your best and continue to persevere you will succeed.

Best of luck,

I know I’ll need it,

Love Moyin x